I find that when you make a change in your life, it is erratic. Not every scenario can you be prepared for no matter how hard you plan.

It is the miracle we call life, we learn to deal with things the best we can with whatever tools that are built into our bodies. Some of us are stronger then others and have different ways to cope.

I always find that throwing myself into change is the best way to force coping. It is the best way to develop or use the tools we are given. No it is not the more efficient way nor the most logical and profound way. Though I argue that when we force change upon ourselves, we forget the fear that held us back and we start the journey to living up to our true potential. We forget the fear; once we learn there is nothing to be afraid of these small steps into fearful lands of change become larger and bolder. Conditioning ourselves to be better people for ourselves, in turn making us happier, healthier beings.

It is fear that holds us back in life, whether it be fear of failure, rejection, pain it is these fears that interfere with our life. The life we are meant to live. Fear can force us into an unhealthy but safe relationship that makes us unhappy, but we are too fearful to be alone and find happiness for ourselves elsewhere. It can be in the form of fearing failure that keeps us in a career or job that does not satisfy us again creating unhappiness in our lives. It could be we are too fearful for those around us that we hurt and close opportunities off from ourselves because we don’t want to hurt others. Sacrifice is all around us for safety, security, and comfort. Though what we must understand is yes those are valuable things in life, but they are not life itself. We are meant to live, change, grow and be happy. If we are not happy in life we cannot love each other, our lovers, our jobs, our children and ourselves. What is the purpose of life without love? Some may argue duty and honor, but that is a hollow life. Fear is the center of unhappiness, it is the center of our malaise as a society. Fear is what is holding us back from greatness.

I believe if we had nothing to fear, we would be a more successful and happier society. We used to be, until 2011 until shock and fear were the only method the government and media used to control the society. It is a way of controlling us, of boxing us in cages that we stay in willingly.

It is a time for change, a time for lightness and a time for happiness for betterment for betterment sake. No it will not be safe, and no it will not be comfortable. On the otherside of the battle will be greatness, peace and a better world. The period of hardship will be small if we as a society shed these fear ideals and let potential take us.

It sounds like a hippie, non-educated rant. As a psychology student you cannot help but see gaps in the system, in society in general. If only we could make you all see this one at a time, but we fight the media bombardment etc. Its as if we cure and addict: then send him back in society with pushers waiting at the door. It is an uphill battle to make people risk, lose and gain in other ways besides monetary security and balanced checkbooks. It takes a lot to allow yourself to fall. It also takes a world to end its rigidity and begin becoming softer to cushion the fall for those who jump.



THIS BLOG : WIll be a day to day challange. I will do one thing a day that scares me. I will go out of my way to make my life uncomfortable so we all may become a little more comfortable. Its an experiment of the toughest proportions.
I meet this challenge with open arms.. I have made a lot of changes in my life. I am living in a new city not knowing anyone at all. I am living alone for the first time, going to a school where i know no one. This is gonna be a year but I'd love to take you along with me and show you how scary life ISN'T if you just don't have fear.

Lets do this together!
Ameara